The wife plays in both lives groups.

Igbar has 2 couples, one married, one not.  4 women, 5 guys in that group, as of last count.  

PLayers have always been allowed to bring SO's, since they like to play with my boy or work on other hobbies.  and one of the newer players used to just come and watch, she's now a player.  as it is supposed to be.

I should point out that Mrs. TheDungeonDelver games with us pretty regularly, except for (most) Champions/Hero System games because that's a 20+ year "guy's night"

Played for a few years with a husband and wife in the group, they were okay. The husband designed games, great gamer, good GM, liked to run weird stuff, a wide variety of things. Just a good all around gamer. The wife had some option paralysis, and if the husband was running the game, he let her dither far more than I did when I was running. A good gamer otherwise - smart as a whip, she'd just always try to find the best solution, when 'good enough' would do just as well.

In a different group, some years earlier, a different husband and wife team, the wife was just terrible. She'd make careless or just mystifyingly stupid decisions, and when she took damage as a result she'd just about throw a fit - to the point of near apoplexy if she thought she'd be killed. We'd have kicked her out if her husband wasn't such a good guy. Felt sorry for him.

And one husband and wife pair, the wife was just a much better gamer than the husband, who was a bit of a tool. She was inventive, funny, and came up with interesting solutions to problems. He was just one of those people who try to be inventive and intelligent, and just come up short - devising overly complex solutions that take forever to implement and are full of failure points, then getting frustrated when people won't sit around and wait on him, or his perfect plans inevitably blow up in his face.
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So, the individuals in the husband-wife pairs I've gamed with have been pretty standard, for the most part. I have experienced the 'they suck, but their partner rocks, so we'll put up with them' dilemma.

My ex-wife is a gamer. We met at a gaming/comic store. She was quite good.

I am trying to get a solo Pathfinder game off the ground for my wife. But scheduling is tough.

Quote from: Tetsubo;495564My ex-wife is a gamer. We met at a gaming/comic store. She was quite good.

I am trying to get a solo Pathfinder game off the ground for my wife. But scheduling is tough.

Scheduling for one player is tough? :idunno:

I've never had any problem with wives or long-term girlfriends; more often with very short-term girlfriends, and there the problem is not with them, but with the idiot that brings her to the game she has NO interest in playing. He's desperate for her to like it so he pushes her into being there, and its awkward as she clearly doesn't want to play and it has no appeal, while her soon to be ex-boyfriend tries to show off the game to her and spoonfeed her at every fucking step to the point that his "hard sell" of gaming guarantees that not only will she have a bad experience, but she will never ever like RPGs from then on.

But other than that, SOs that actually want to be there, play, and try the game, have never ever been a problem.

RPGPundit

Quote from: RPGPundit;495734I've never had any problem with wives or long-term girlfriends; more often with very short-term girlfriends, and there the problem is not with them, but with the idiot that brings her to the game she has NO interest in playing. He's desperate for her to like it so he pushes her into being there, and its awkward as she clearly doesn't want to play and it has no appeal, while her soon to be ex-boyfriend tries to show off the game to her and spoonfeed her at every fucking step to the point that his "hard sell" of gaming guarantees that not only will she have a bad experience, but she will never ever like RPGs from then on.

But other than that, SOs that actually want to be there, play, and try the game, have never ever been a problem.

RPGPundit

This mirrors my own experiences.

My core D&D group is composed by two couples, and I never had problems.

Actually the current situation is quite wild. One husband is playing a sex-addicted wizard. His wife plays a male elf who has a crush for my female druid. The female player in the other couple plays a Paladin fearful of losing her virginity because she doesn't want to lose her Unicorn mount, while the male plays an halfling uninterested in sex.

I had a problem only once with a couple. She did seemed interested in gaming, but after a while we got a flurry of excuses ("My dad is hospitalized, our car is in the shop for repairs, our car is hospitalized, his dad is in the shop for repairs...") We missed a month of sessions before realizing that they were making up excuses because she didn't want to play anymore.

[We didn't realize it at first, because once *I* caused the group to lose a month of sessions due to a chain of misfortunate last-minute accidents.]

This of course made us angry and we stopped inviting them altogether. Repaying politeness with lies is not what gaming should be about... :rolleyes:

Quote from: Tetsubo;495564My ex-wife is a gamer. We met at a gaming/comic store.

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