Have you ever had the displeasure of having to remove a player from your game?

What were your reasons? How did you go about it? How did it go?

I have had a few over the years.

1) One very nice guy had a bad skin condition that scabbed him up pretty bad. That was certainly forgivable but he had a habit of picking and EATING the scabs while we played. I warned him about it and he said it was a habit he had tried to break for years and couldn't. I had to tell him he wasn't welcome anymore. It just grossed us out.

2) A young kid about 18 joined our group at one point, goth looking kid - bleached white hair, eye makeup and black fingernails. You know the type. Again, not a problem in itself but when he was arrested (not convicted) of messing with juveniles in accordance with a local satanic cult group I let him know he couldn't come back. Maybe he was innocent, maybe he wasn't. Most of us had young children around, we weren't taking chances.

3) The last one was more difficult. Well educated guy, long history of gaming, pretty nice fellow but when he played he absolutely dominated the session. He took charge with or without the other player's consent. He shouted out what "They" were all doing without discussion or permission. He constantly turned the focus of every scene upon himself like launching into dialogue even when his character had no skill in oratory etc. It was funny at first, then mildly annoying and then just outright awful. A couple of my players threatened to quit if he didn't. I let him go and it was a pretty nasty scene. I actually got hatemail from the guy for weeks.

I did have to run off one player. Don't leer at my beautiful wife. Yes, I did get lucky enough to marry way out of my league, thanks very much!

I had to run off a DM once too. A long story involving solving a mystery at the beginning of the session. Obvious clues made it rather easy after all.

I can't recall ever running anyone off or really even needing or wanting to run someone off. Some people don't click with me or the group I'm with. I don't invite them back. Usually people that don't fit tend to wander off on their own without any extra help from me. And although you would probably never guess it from my posting style, in person I seem to project a degree of assertiveness, argumentativeness, and a level of comfort with confrontation that causes odd balls, misfits, and losers to hit the bricks without any need for special action on my part.

Not yet...

No kicking people out. Had a few ragequits.  All but one asked to come back.  Had a couple of "just don't invite back".  Most of the time I lose a player it's a hanger-on.  Someone who is only there because they came with someone else.  They usually choose not to come back, only once did they take the primary player with them.  It wasn't a great loss.   The player I regret losing the most was to Magic.  They were like semi-pro.

Not really. I tend to play with other expats and it's a small enough community that I'd know well beforehand if someone had a reputation that would make them unwelcome. There are plenty of those people around, but they tend to get run out of the entire country rather quickly. I play with locals as well, but for the most part they are students or friends of friends and if anything, are way more 'normal' than the expats.

That said...I played with a guy in Taiwan once who just asked for it. He dressed like Jesus and had the personal mannerisms of a Rasputin. I think it was the second session with that guy when we all started to smell urine. We were all sitting around a coffee table on pillows and that guy had pissed himself (God knows why, the toilet was 10 feet away) and didn't say anything. A couple of us took the guy outside and issued a rather stern ass-whupping and sent him on his way.

Only once really. A guy showed up piss drunk, sat down and started puking at the game table. Fortunately, one of my regular players grabbed the guy's book bag and shoved his head into it (which he quickly proceeded to fill with puke). When he finished he was immediately  escorted out of the house and sent on his way never to return.

Shemek

One guy I played with, he was a klepto.  He was the reason I started writing my name in all my books.  The final straw was when he stole a collector coin from my best friend and then tried to sell it back to him.  I booted him from my circle and that was that.

Then there was a guy someone in the group invited to game night.  He was OK until the first combat of the night started.  Then he unzipped trou and started stroking the sausage right there at the table.  And he acted like this was some perfectly normal stuff.  I don't remember what I said, but I managed to yell at him something to the effect  of to put his junk back in his pants and get the fuck out.  I've never been able to remember his name or who invited him, and no one else there that night has ever volunteered the information since then.

Quote from: Kellri;913886Not really. I tend to play with other expats and it's a small enough community that I'd know well beforehand if someone had a reputation that would make them unwelcome. There are plenty of those people around, but they tend to get run out of the entire country rather quickly. I play with locals as well, but for the most part they are students or friends of friends and if anything, are way more 'normal' than the expats.

That said...I played with a guy in Taiwan once who just asked for it. He dressed like Jesus and had the personal mannerisms of a Rasputin. I think it was the second session with that guy when we all started to smell urine. We were all sitting around a coffee table on pillows and that guy had pissed himself (God knows why, the toilet was 10 feet away) and didn't say anything. A couple of us took the guy outside and issued a rather stern ass-whupping and sent him on his way.

Quote from: Shemek hiTankolel;913893Only once really. A guy showed up piss drunk, sat down and started puking at the game table. Fortunately, one of my regular players grabbed the guy's book bag and shoved his head into it (which he quickly proceeded to fill with puke). When he finished he was immediately  escorted out of the house and sent on his way never to return.

Shemek

Quote from: Gabriel2;913894One guy I played with, he was a klepto.  He was the reason I started writing my name in all my books.  The final straw was when he stole a collector coin from my best friend and then tried to sell it back to him.  I booted him from my circle and that was that.

Then there was a guy someone in the group invited to game night.  He was OK until the first combat of the night started.  Then he unzipped trou and started stroking the sausage right there at the table.  And he acted like this was some perfectly normal stuff.  I don't remember what I said, but I managed to yell at him something to the effect  of to put his junk back in his pants and get the fuck out.  I've never been able to remember his name or who invited him, and no one else there that night has ever volunteered the information since then.

I thought a dude undressing my wife with his eyes was bad... dadgum. You guys win.

Quote from: Gabriel2;913894Then there was a guy someone in the group invited to game night.  He was OK until the first combat of the night started.  Then he unzipped trou and started stroking the sausage right there at the table.  And he acted like this was some perfectly normal stuff.  I don't remember what I said, but I managed to yell at him something to the effect  of to put his junk back in his pants and get the fuck out.  I've never been able to remember his name or who invited him, and no one else there that night has ever volunteered the information since then.

Nooooo....nooooo...that can't....are you fucking kidding me?  I...this doesn't seem real...how did...(sigh)...that's incredible...

Quote from: Gabriel2;913894One guy I played with, he was a klepto.  He was the reason I started writing my name in all my books.  The final straw was when he stole a collector coin from my best friend and then tried to sell it back to him.  I booted him from my circle and that was that.

Then there was a guy someone in the group invited to game night.  He was OK until the first combat of the night started.  Then he unzipped trou and started stroking the sausage right there at the table.  And he acted like this was some perfectly normal stuff.  I don't remember what I said, but I managed to yell at him something to the effect  of to put his junk back in his pants and get the fuck out.  I've never been able to remember his name or who invited him, and no one else there that night has ever volunteered the information since then.

Ok thats like, I don't know. Wow

Quote from: rgrove0172;913897Ok thats like, I don't know. Wow

Making Big Spring look like gamer's paradise, right?

I had to tell one of my best friends to hit the bricks once because he just creeping out the other players. We're not close anymore, but I gave him as many chances as I absolutely could.

Quote from: Harlock;913901Making Big Spring look like gamer's paradise, right?

Yeah, I'm calling the scab eater back.