I have a variety of gaming groups, one is basically old friends and their families and is primarily social and invitation only. Others are via my Meetup and so are open to new members. Dealing with the occasional weirdo can be an issue. If they are not fun to be around they end up on the wait list.

Forever.

Quote from: mAcular Chaotic;1122133How do you handle people who are super invested in the game, but kind of shitty to hang around? Do you prioritize the fact that they're there to game or do you cut them loose?

Definitely a balancing act. I have a guy like that in my group now. He's *SUPER* invested. But he's like an asshole. No one denies he makes moves in the game and can drive things quite a bit. As a GM - he's a goldmine. And honestly he's a really nice guy outside of the game. In the game his characters tend to be "power-gamey" and he simply can't resist going for the obvious power-move that puts himself (and everyone else) in jeopardy. He's known for his "asshole characters". But he's a genuinely good guy. But I'm gonna say - there have been times where I've considered the ejection button on him...

People that are actually full-blown assholes... are generally not welcomed by me if I can't simply have a civil game and if you're an asshole out of game. I mean we have to have some standards. Being social is part of the game, but even as a secondary function it can eclipse the primary. And as the GM you gotta maintain the chemistry of the group.

Quote from: rgrove0172;1122162After over 40 years of gaming I gave up on gaming groups. Strictly a solo act now.

This is an example of "extreme curation".

Quote from: sureshot;1122166Agreed and seconded. Anyone interested in joining needs to act and behave like a responsible adult. As well as no edition warring. The second gets one immediately booted from our gaming table. I don't understand the strangeness of say hating 5E, going on a rant at a 5E table then expecting the group to simply shrug and accept that kind of behavior. Let alone joining a table where ones hates the edition of the rpg. We are also not a X-card kind of table nor I have arachnophobia yet I'm going to joing a campaign where Drow and Lolth are the main antagonists and the DM is going to change everything ti suit my and my needs alone table.

This, the first hurdle and easiest to clear is to ask them of their opinion of the X-Card, and the stupid toolkit, if they think it's a good idea then ]I won't risk playing with them, either at my table or theirs. This also rules out most of the people I wouldn't want to hang with.

Then there's the "everything is political" assholes, those who can't leave their politics at the door will find themselves on the outside of the same.

Quote from: mAcular Chaotic;1122183I assume you have no problem if they ask you to leave too then.

From his house? At his table? LOL

Quote from: mAcular Chaotic;1122183I assume you have no problem if they ask you to leave too then.

They are not parallel concerns, or at least not automatically so.

There are a ton of hard lines and soft preferences that I have for games that I GM and games that I host and games where I'm the primary organizer--but would not apply when I'm simply a player.  Lots of unrestrained "language" is one of them.  My game, it isn't going to have it.  But if that's the only impediment to me fitting into a group, it wouldn't bother me at all.  Everyone can have their language and I'll just be fine.  I'm not even faking it to fit in.  It really doesn't bother me.  

The only way I'd run a game in that setup is if the group already existed, but then ask me to wear the GM hat for a campaign.  Sure, some of my other preferences and hard lines might arise (e.g. genres I'm willing to run), but if we can navigate those, then the group can carry on as before.  

Reciprocal for "my game, my rules" or "my house, my rules" is that when you go play in someone else's game or house, they get the same consideration.

Quote from: mAcular Chaotic;1122183I assume you have no problem if they ask you to leave too then.

if they are hosting yes, by all means, don't wanna be where i'm not wanted

Greetings!

Well, in the Adventurer League games I periodically attend, as a *player*--I have to deal with all kinds of morons, as well as some cool people. In my home games, it is very different. Loony, Leftist snowflakes are not welcome. I generally run a Conservative group of dinosaurs, and well, I am the SHARK God-Emperor. Everyone gets along well with me. If I don't like them, they are fucking gone. *Laughs* Everyone at the table knows that it's my house, It's my campaign world, and I'm the DM. I can be a bit authoritarian. *Laughs*

I actually am very kind, gracious and fun. I encourage my friends to speak up, ask questions, and also to argue freely about rules and such, even including disagreements with my own interpretations, outside of the game session. I don't like jackasses though, or nonsense. Respectful, mature, fun, sincere, it's all good.

Semper Fidelis,

SHARK

Quote from: dkabq;1122161https://www.oxfordlearnersdictionaries.com/us/definition/english/curate2

Both definitions refer to collections of things, not people.

Quote from: Kyle Aaron;1122219Both definitions refer to collections of things, not people.

People are things with autonomous moral agency.

Quote from: Kyle Aaron;1122149"curate"?

Didn't he have an egg? Good in parts?

Quote from: Gorilla Feet;1122090Easy peasy- if I would not hang out with you outside of gaming you're not gonna be at my house rolling funny dice pretending to be an elf starship captain.

This should be on a t-shirt at game shops. As to why, it's because I game with my wife and best friend in my home, with my pets around. Their safety and comfort trumps any nerdly needs.

Quote from: tenbones;1122088How well do you curate your gaming group. What are your criteria?

Strangers find me who are interested in, or say that they, role-play. Then I vet them to see how well they role-play.

Quote from: tenbones;1122088How well do you curate your gaming group. What are your criteria?

1. No politics.

2. No religion.

3. Have your character sheet and know what's on it & how it all works.

4. Know what you want to do during combat (what weapon or spell, and the effect [roll to hit & damage dice at the the same time]) so combat flows faster.

5. Know what social skill you lean to in order to keep the narrative moving along.

6. Not sure of your spell? Get skipped.

7. Work as a team as often as possible.

8. Nice puns get bonuses; +2 for D&D, or Inspiration for D&D 5e.

Players have to show up regularly. They have to be basically functional as human beings, and not socially retarded to the point of making me not want to have them around.