In the movie
CREATOR that was released in the 1985 and starred Peter O'Toole there was this discussion about defining Love:
QuoteBoris: Harry, how did you know you were in love? I mean with you and Lucy. How'd you know it wasn't just infatuation?
Dr Harry Wolper: Scientifically, of COURSE. By using The Love Formula.
Boris: The what?
Dr Harry Wolper: Love Formula. Add up the number of times that you think about the lady each day. Subtract from the total the number of times you think about yourself each day. If the remainder is more lady, and less yourself, then it's love.
Boris: Oh, I've been thinking about Barbara a lot lately.
Dr Harry Wolper: What's so very neat about this particular formula, is that "a lot" plugs into it beautifully.
Does that formula or definition make sense for most people or are there better ways of figuring out that particular question?
- Ed C.
Frankly, I'm not compulsive enough to be able to think about the number of times I think of one person or another in a given day. In the event that I am aware that I'm thinking of one person more than any other (including myself), then I usually arrive at the conclusion that there's something wrong with me, and that I need to relax and stop thinking so much.
Nah, in my opinion, "love" has to do with the reflexiveness and constancy of affection that you maintain for another, whether you're actively thinking of them or not, whether you're happy or angry with them, whether you expect anything from them or not. There's not a calculation for figuring it out, and it's not just a matter of putting someone else before yourself.
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